Although we encounter secrets in every area of life, they are perhaps most destructive when kept among. Parents, relatives and business partners and friends. The result is usually emotional bondage or demonic captivity.
What deliverance ministries have labelled as generational curses may very well be the power of a family secret. Families are support systems; our identity and ability to form close relationships with others depend upon the trust and communication we feel with loved ones. If family members keep secrets from each other–or from the outside world–the emotional fallout can last a lifetime.
There are five main ways that family secrets shape Us and put us in bondage.
1. they can divide family members, permanently estranging them;
2. they can discourage us from being open and honest with people outside of the family. in other words, the secret blocks us from trusting others.
3. they can freeze development at crucial points in life, preventing the growth of self and identity;
4. they can lead to painful relationships within a family, causing unnecessary guilt, resentment, shame and doubt.
5. They leave an open door to demons to consistently attack.
i remember a case where a secret almost destroyed a woman I write about called LAURA. LAURA was charismatic and she was also an addict. when I look back on it now, this prolific tongue talker was not even saved.
Anyway, the secret that kept her drinking was that when she was single, she had a best friend who was dating this guy, who LAURA ended up marrying. The secret was that the two women were sleeping together as well. Laura’s friend left town before Laura and the guy got married. now she was planning to come back to town and Laura was afraid that the girlfriend would tell her husband that Laura had been a lesbian, sleeping with his own girlfriend.
This secret haunted Laura and caused her to continue to relapse. I would not know the secret if I did not dream about what had happened and confronted Laura about the dream. She broke down and revealed the truth. I told Laura to go on ahead and take the power out of the devil’s hands and tell her husband. She did, it all worked out. This was 1983. Laura broke up with that husband and married another, so all of that guilt and shame was for nothing anyway, she is now a drug counselor herself with decades of sobriety under her belt.
When and how to expose a secret requires wisdom because it can be extremely challenging, particularly if others will be seriously harmed once the secret is exposed. I am thinking of a situation where a mother slept with a relative and had a child. In this case, my client is the only one who knows about this 35 year old secret. so much is at stake. So to break the power of this scandal over my client, As her counselor, I became the vessel for breaking the hold this secret has over my client’s life, without exposing it to people who are affected by the secret.
So if a family secret is posing as a generational curse in your life, deliverance counseling may be for you. Give us a call at 518-477-5759 and destroy the power of that damnable secret.